Thursday, March 31, 2011

Top Ten Signs Your Family is Getting "BIG!"

So, I've noticed some changes over the last year or so that indicate to me we are becoming a "big" family. I decided to make a top ten list and share them with you.

Drum roll please..........


Top Ten Signs Your Family is Getting "BIG!"


10. You have to buy a toaster with four slots instead of two.

9. One box of pasta will not feed the family anymore.

8. At the store someone says to you (being seven months pregnant), "Is this your first?" and you say, "No, it's my fifth." Then they look shocked or horrified or some combination of the two.

7. When you make scrambled eggs for breakfast, it takes 15 eggs to fill everyone up.

6. You can consume an entire loaf of bread to make sandwiches for lunch.

5. At a restaurant someone says to you (being seven months pregnant), "Is this your first?" and you say, "No, it's my fifth." Then they look shocked or horrified or some combination of the two.

4. You start to use a griddle to make pancakes instead of a pan. Heck, you just start leaving the griddle on the stove and using it for everything.

3. When you're grocery shopping someone says to you, "You must be planning for some big event." Then you say, "No, I'm just shopping for my family."

2. Everywhere you go, every time you're out in public, someone says to you, "Is this your first?" and you say, "No, it's my fifth." Then they look shocked or horrified or some combination of the two.

The number one sign that your family is getting big....

1. You see a tour-guide vehicle (at least 15-20 seats) go by, and you and your husband laugh and joke that someday you might need that. You both think it's funny, but then you both independently think, "That's not a bad idea..."

I just want to say we're really enjoying these little people we're bringing into the world. It's a LOT of work, but it's good, satisfying work.

And in case you were wondering - no, it's not my first child, it's my fifth!

Nigh-Night! Emily


Saturday, March 19, 2011

Spring Break!

Spring break is always a nice time to break things up from the normal routine. I really enjoy seeing what the kids decide to do for some entertainment between friends and outings. I also REALLY appreciate the beautiful weather we've been having!



The kids had a blast building a dam in the (mostly unplanted) garden... there are some peas trying to pop up in the back part of the garden.








Joel is earning his Wolf badge, Gold arrow and Silver arrow in Cub Scouts this month! One of his last achievements was to visit a firehouse and learn about fire safety, so he and Greg went for a visit today. Way to go, Joel!!









Scene 1) The kids love to hang out at the bottom of the stairs when I throw the laundry bags down.




Scene 2) Then they get hit with the bags and they all crack up. After that, Abby climbs on one and the kids give her a ride all the way to the laundry room.






I just never get tired of watching Abby haul around this very patient chicken!









Sunday, March 13, 2011

Crackin' Me Up!

Hello all! Emily here - (Not really here at the beach, I'm figuratively speaking from my computer chair. I thought this would be a more enjoyable picture than me sitting in my pajamas.)

For this post, I just want to say my kids crack me up and I love having them in my life.


Abby's at it again!



Sometimes you discover your kids have commandeered the camera without your knowing...
I have no idea what the following is all about!









I accidentally erased the one of Maddie. Maybe they're being mummies?
Anyway, I really like these little people!
Good night!
Emily



Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Some thoughts on sympathy...

Our morning ritual when Greg heads off to work each day...



A parent loses his opportunity for good to his child, if he fails to have sympathy with this child in that child's weakness and follies and misdoings. It is in every child's nature to long for sympathy at the point where he needs it most; and when he has done wrong, or has indulged evil thoughts, or is feeling the force of temptation, he is glad to turn to some one stronger and better than himself, and make confession of his faults and failures. If as he comes to his parents at such a time, he is met with manifest sympathy, he is drawn to his parents with new confidence and new trust.
~ Charlotte Mason

The first time I read this quote, it really touched me. I think it impacted me a lot because having sympathy and compassion for my children in their weaknesses isn't my first instinct. When they make poor choices, I can be a real lecturer. Somehow I'm always afraid my children won't learn from their mistakes without me reminding them about this or that or how we "should" behave.

I realized that I am operating under the assumption they really don't know right from wrong. I have believed they somehow needed me to point out the distinction to them or there's no way they could learn it.


Charlotte Mason's approach, however, shows an intrinsic belief and trust in the child's own judgment. It proposes they do indeed already know they have done something wrong, and their own conscience is doing more teaching than a parent could ever do. When I first wanted to try this, I actually was afraid that really loving behavior and sympathy (after they've done something wrong) would somehow give them a positive reward for negative behavior. I wondered if it would do the opposite of what I wanted.

However, the idea really spoke to me, so I've been working on this approach with the kids for a while. Sometimes I remember, and sometimes I don't, but I have really liked what it has done for my relationship with the kids. When I discover something wrong, or they come and tell me about something they've done, I try to respond to them with sympathy. It creates kind of a special moment (especially compared to the adverse effect that is usually created), and they really do feel the weight of their choice without anything from me but sorrow and support. I can tell that they feel like I'm on their team, and I'm just as sorry as they are that they made an unwise choice. It makes me feel like they know I love them still in spite of their decision.

To be truly honest, when I make poor choices (which I certainly do), it is very clear to me that I have the same "longing for sympathy where I need it most" just like my kids do. I want to turn to someone "stronger and better" for help with my follies who doesn't judge harshly or reprimand me. I know when I've done something wrong and I appreciate a kind support to guide me through the consequences of the choices I've made.

Hopefully, we'll keep growing in this area. (I especially want to remember this lesson on days like today, when a child stepped on a chicken's foot and broke one of it's large toes!) I think we're all really in the same boat: learning in this life (sometimes from our mistakes) and trying to become better people. Over here at the Nielson house we'll keep floating along, and more sympathy seems like a great lifeline for that.

Have a lovely evening! ~Emily

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Weekend Potpourri

Just a smattering from the past week....

Abby's latest and greatest outfits




The kids visited a local news station for a field trip. Maybe we have a couple of budding meteorologists?


Last but not least, Joel gave a talk in Primary. He did a really great job and we were all very proud of him. Here are his first paragraph and last sentence.

Everybody needs to try to be safe from the temptations of Satan. Like if you are in a maze, Heavenly Father is like a map. But Satan, in the maze, is a mistake on the map. We need to be smart about where we go and what we do.
So if you get tempted by Satan, tell him to get out of town.
Sometimes motherhood is really fun.
Good night! ~Emily












Thursday, March 3, 2011

How Can We Measure Progress?


We owe it to our children to stimulate in them a wide range of interests in their elementary years. Wherever we go, whomever we talk to, whatever we see can be of some interest to children if we stand aside and let them question and consider or examine and research. It should not be "How much has our child covered?" but "How much does he care?" and "About how many things does he care?"
~Karen Andreola


As a homeschooler, I clearly have to use a somewhat different metric for tracking my children's educational progress than is typically used in schools. While I do use a couple of different curricula that guide this process in certain subjects, I don't have countless rubrics at my disposal to measure everything that my children do.

So how do I track their progress?

Well, let me start by addressing the premise in the above quote. When I first read it I have to admit I was a bit skeptical. Measuring children's progress by how much they like their subjects? What about tests and grade standards? We can't just go flitting around doing only the things that we think are fun, or what our mood happens to be that day, what kind of education is that? Most of all, no kid is just naturally going to love their homework, and therefore, want to do lots of it. Well, as time passes, I can see that the quote is not assuming we should leave out subjects that aren't our favorite, and that measuring a child's excitement about their education is a direct link to how their education is actually progressing.

As we set up our school schedule, I made sure that all the basics were given the proper time and attention: math, reading, handwriting, grammar, literature, history, music practice, and French have been staples of our daily routine. Other subjects are weekly or bi-weekly such as: science, art, geography, nature journals, a tea party/etiquette lesson and discussion, a library trip, scouts, achievement days, typing, and baking.

I have to say, at least for us, this is a pretty full schedule. Over time, a few things have dropped or evolved from the list. For example, we are taking a break from French for the rest of this year until I find a curriculum I really like. Typing, as well, has gone to the wayside as we have focused more on other things. Truthfully, winter really affects our nature journals, because who really wants to be sketching things in nature while they're freezing to death? Uh, not me, I'm kind of wimpy when it comes to cold. Also, our I dropped our weekly music study because the kids were already practicing their instruments everyday and I decided that was plenty of music study.

However, other things have gained more momentum over time as we have learned to study them in a more enjoyable way. For example, I am no artist; thus, teaching art was something I was not particularly enjoying. However, I found some FANTASTIC "living" books that have absolutely transformed our interest in art. It was something we all worked on once a week to one of the kids' favorite subjects that at times is now done 4-5 days a week. Their excitement over their art work has DIRECTLY affected how much effort they put into it. They're doing some really beautiful work right now, and I believe it's because of how much they CARE about it.

So art study is seriously better, but I have definitely seen the kids' interest in other studies improve as we have tweaked subjects to match the child and make it really interesting to them. For example, my husband had an idea to help my son, Joel (2nd grade), get more excited about writing. He thought it would be really fun for them to write letters to each other, each pretending to be a superhero.

Now, one could say, "But that's not really academic, now is it? Joel's writing shouldn't be about something silly like superheroes." Well, I can say I had a kid who was NOT interested in writing, and I now have a kid who is writing 2-3 letters per week, excited about his ideas of how to bring down Dr. Finn and Darkness (villains!), articulating those ideas, and learning oodles of spelling, punctuation, grammar, and letter form in the process. Well, I don't have an exact rubric to measure the progress that is going on, but do I need it? It's clear to me that right now, he is thriving in his writing as much as he is capable of doing.

Now on the other side of the coin, I would be lying if I said I weren't concerned about how well my kids are doing compared to other kids their ages.

So, I've tried to come up with a list of how I measure my kids' progress, both from an academic standpoint (truly measurable) and what I would call "living" standpoints (how excited, enriched, and fulfilled are my children?). In the past, it's been easy to only focus on the academic standpoints, because let's face it, isn't that what schools care about, and obviously we want our kids to get into great colleges and be successful, right? Well, one of my main goals with homeschooling has been to find the balance between high expectations for kids' learning and just flat out enjoying our lives more. Lots of learning, way less tension and stress.

Anyway, here's the list:

  • I printed off the grade standards for the APS (Albuquerque Public School) system for New Mexico. The grade standards tell me, for each grade, what the child should be learning in each subject. It's incredibly detailed to the point of making lesson plans for all subjects, if I choose.
  • I recently found an online standardized test from the state of Texas for grades 3-11. New Mexico doesn't require any testing for homeschoolers, but I want to get a sense of where we are (or aren't) as far as the content of these tests go. My plan is to administer the test in the spring of each school year. I also think it's important that the kids get familiar with the way these tests are set up and have some experience taking them.
  • As far as math goes, my children are required to correct all mistakes immediately after I correct their assignment. Right then, no buts about it. That process ensures that they are mastering concepts as they go, and are not allowed to move on without understanding something.
  • Regular use of dictionaries and thesauruses is highly encouraged.
  • If I say to my kids, "It's time for history," and I hear "Yes!!!" come from their mouths, I know they are enjoying history, and therefore feeling happy and content.
  • If we go on a nature outing, and the kids go running to their Dad when he gets home from work saying, "Dad! We saw a branta canadensis today!" I can tell they're happy and have learned something.
  • If my then five year old sees a stick with a forked end and says, "Mom, it's just like the Nile river delta!" I can tell he is feeling excited about his history learning.
  • If my daughter has a friend over and she tells him they're going to do free-form writing for fun, that tells me she's enjoying her writing.
  • If my daughter asks me to give her perimeter and area problems to solve during church, I can tell she really likes math.
  • If my son says, "This problem is just like a Gordian knot!" a year after we learned about Gordian knots, I can tell he really liked and picked up on that lesson.
  • If I have to set my daughter's library book limit to 14 per week, I can tell she's loving reading.
  • If my daughter says to me, "I had to pry that book out of Joel's hands so he could brush his teeth," that tells me he's loving reading.
These are the types of things that tell me we're making progress.

In closing, I just want to say I really want the kids to have a great education and yet have time for a really FULL, ENJOYABLE childhood. I now trust the quote above, that how much they care about a wide range of subjects directly affects how much they learn of those subjects.

I believe there are more ways than one to skin cats and measure educational progress.

Good night! ~Emily